Making the decision to get a divorce is serious. Once you say that you’re interested in separating or divorcing, your spouse may agree or it may cause more tension in your home.
How you bring up the idea of a separation or divorce is just as important as what you do afterward. The last thing you should do is say you want to divorce during an argument or when tensions are high. If you are really ready to divorce, then you should remember these tips.
Wait until you’re calm, they’re calm and you have time to talk
When both of you are in a calm state and have time to talk, speak with your spouse about your relationship. Ask them how they feel and if they think you’re in a good place. Sometimes, people don’t realize that there is a problem, and they may be willing to work together to resolve it. If you don’t want that, then you may suggest that you want to separate and divorce in an amicable manner.
If you have children, don’t talk about the divorce when they’re home
When you first speak with your spouse about getting a divorce, the last thing you want is for your children to be home and to overhear it. The conversation may be emotional or tense, so give yourselves the space to work through the conversation by talking when your children are at school or elsewhere.
Acknowledge the other person’s feelings
Although the moment when you discuss a divorce may be filled with emotion, you should stay calm and recognize your spouse’s feelings. They may be upset, angry or frustrated. Some people will be fine, even happy, that you were the one to suggest splitting up. Whatever your spouse feels, make sure you acknowledge that and then discuss the next steps.
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